“Mirror, mirror on the wall, who is the fairest one of all?” This is perhaps one of the most popular phrases associated to mirrors and reflections. Most of us remember how the evil Queen in ‘Snow White and The Seven Dwarves’ was obsessed with her reflection, checking in every day with her mirror to ensure that only she was the fairest in the land.
Naturally, when she found out of Snow White’s existence when the mirror declared her as the fairest in the land, she flew into a jealous rage. Poor Queen, if only she had been told that the secret to maintaining the ‘fairest reflection’ lies within you, things might have ended differently for her.
They say that what you see in the world is really a reflection of what is inside of you. Think about this statement. I believe it holds a lot of truth. When you’re having a bad day, everything else seems to mirror it – there’s too much traffic, it’s too hot, your colleagues are annoying, you feel terrible – and the more you dwell in feeling down in the dumps, the worse you truly feel; emotionally and physically. And it’s the exact same thing when you’re happy. Or in love. Isn’t it amazing that we hold so much power within us to affect the rest of our day? Without even giving it so much as a thought, the minute we choose an attitude, we’re automatically setting up our day to unfold in a similar way.
The same can be said about our relationships and how we view the world in general. Think about how you feel about your world, the environment you live in and the relationships you have in your life and then answer these questions as truthfully as you can.
- Do you often feel like nothing is good enough?
- Do you compare your life a lot to others’?
- Are there a lot of people that you find annoying or cannot stand?
- Do you hold grudges?
- Can you be intimate and honest (romantically or have meaningful platonic relationships) with someone?
- Do you keep in touch with your friends and family?
- Do you smile, laugh or cry often?
- Do you regularly have great days or bad days?
- Do you often think you’re better than others?
- Are you truly able to express gratitude or feel happy for others?
Once you’ve answered these questions, read them again and take a long hard look at your ‘mirror’. If you notice that there are more negative responses than positive ones, ask yourself – why are you feeling this way? Are there unresolved issues that you may be harbouring? Is there something in particular that is bothering you? Or are you simply feeling discontented with your life in general?
It’s very normal to not always feel at 100 percent. We are after all only human. And being human, we all strive and seek happiness, peace and ultimately, love. Love is what makes us who we are and it is also our greatest power. And this is why having a ‘loving mirror’ is so important for us, so that we can not only live happier, more fulfilled lives, but so that we are also reflecting our love back to others.
“If you are irritated by every rub, how will your mirror be polished?” Rumi
Our mirrors can be one of our greatest tools, no doubt. And like any great tool, it needs to be taken care of but also ‘polished’ as Rumi says. So yes, live, love and express yourself. But also get annoyed, let people challenge you, say ‘Thank you’ when you’re angry and let everything else that comes your way be used to polish your mirror. Remember, the clearer the mirror, the clearer your reflection will be.
Try this easy experiment and see how the power of a beautiful mirror works for you: Pick a morning sometime this week and set an intention to greet the first 10 people or so (you may choose to do more) you see with a genuine smile and a ‘Good morning’. Really feel happy and grateful for the morning and that you’re able to share the ‘Good’ with them. And see how they react. See how you react. And notice how you feel. You could even try it the following day with more people, or replace ‘Good morning’ with a ‘Hello’ or ‘How are you?’ Whatever comes naturally to you, go for it. I guarantee that if anything, you’ll notice how easily people will react to you.
These days there is so much going on in the world that we don’t have immediate control over, such as war, terrorism, violence and disease. So let’s choose to create beauty and love in what we can control. Be grateful, smile often, look for the beauty around you, choose love. Make your mirror your biggest, shiniest, clearest asset yet and to quote the first line from ‘When You’re Smiling’ by Louis Armstrong, “when you’re smilin’, keep on smilin’, the whole word smiles with you”.