5 Must-read Books When Changing Course in Life
| Written by Hani Khaursar
Change can be easy and you hardly know it has happened, or in some cases, change can be difficult - dredging up our past, questioning our future and making our present seem shaky. Whether it is because you are no longer satisfied in your job, someone close has passed away, or maybe you’re going through a divorce or separation, or maybe it’s because you want something new in your life. Either way, change happens, it is inevitable - and when change does happen, there is no shame in asking for help.
Each person deals with change differently. One thing I’ve always found helpful is to read books in times of change - books that can help with my journey, perhaps inspire and inform or better yet, both! So if you are going through some change in your life right now, I hope that at least some of these books will prove to be helpful. If you have any books that aren’t on the list, please list them in the comments. I would love to read them! Enjoy, and buen viaje!
How can a book about shame and vulnerability be of help during times of change? Well, because it is a book that deals with shame and vulnerability! Two sets of feelings that often arise during times of change. I discovered Brown’s inspiring work when I watched her TED talk about the Power of Vulnerability; I’ve been sold on it ever since. I dare say I’ve read almost all her books. Brown talks about living ‘wholeheartedly’ and she isn’t just pulling things out of her derriere – her work is backed by years of research that led her to conclude that wholehearted living is the only way to live. Vulnerability, unlike what we have been taught, is not a weakness, but a power to be tapped. At a time when you are likely feeling your most vulnerable, I’m sure her book will help you dare greatly.
“We’re surrounded by people who are busy getting their ducks in a row, waiting for just the right moment. Getting your ducks in a row is a fine thing to do. But deciding what you are going to do with that duck is a far more important issue.” - Seth Godin
That excerpt pretty much sums up the book, Godin doesn’t tell you what to do, however he does provide provocative musings that will hopefully inspire you to start. Now. Compiled from his past blog posts starting from 2004, but arranged in a way to create an impact, especially if you read it cover to cover - and you probably will, Godin challenges you to look at things from a different perspective and most of all, to move, to start, to make that change. Be warned: Might induce passionate movement.
I know, perhaps this might be too simple a story to induce any kind of change, but in its simplicity lies its message. And it is a simple message: pursue your dream. I found this book to be very comforting when I was in an uncertain place in my life, unsure of where to head and what steps to take. The book didn’t tell me what to do, but it did inspire with its take on a young shepherd boy who dared follow his dreams (literally). Told as a parable so it’s easy to read and follow, it is up to us to unearth what the story might mean to us. Every time I read the book I gain a new insight into my life. Am I following my dreams? If not, am I at least giving my current situation my best? Living enthusiastically - regardless of your situation - can bring about surprising results. Definitely a book to read and then share with your family and friends.
If you’ve been wanting to start a new venture, sell your art, write a book, take that trip, join that company or whatever else you have always wanted to do but have been procrastinating, then this is a book for you. Pressfield talks about Resistance and how that one little ‘entity’ is the reason we never fulfill our potential as human beings. We may know that Resistance is the culprit, but what a culprit it is! Enough to cripple the very best of us. In his book he talks about Resistance (with a capital R) as an actual entity that is as real as you and I, that exists to prevent us from doing the work that we are meant to do. Pressfield deconstructs the whole of Resistance in the hopes that it will help you do the work. As Pressfield says, when it comes to resistance, it is a war to the death!
And finally we have a book on the list that might cause some eye-rolls because of the title. Why do you need this book when trying to make a change in your life? Because underneath all the aspirations, inspirations, motivations and all other variations with the suffix -ions, there has to be a healthy dose of self-love in order for you to make it. Ravikant’s ‘aha!’ moment happened when he was bedridden for months and the only thing he did in order to heal himself was to repeat, “I love myself,” over and over. Since then he has been on a path to come back to love and it has served him well. The book is as simple as its message; a short, easy read but packs a powerful punch.