There are many ways in which we can create space around us and in our different bodies; the emotional, mental, physical and spiritual bodies.
This can be done by moving objects and de-cluttering our environments, clearing our minds with a meditation practice or even by distancing ourselves from situations and relationships. This can also be found even in the act of taking a deep cleansing breath. In yoga for example, you often hear things like ‘opening the heart’ or ‘creating room in the chest and upper body’ or ‘breathing into your hips’; phrases like these are in reference to the creation of space, this time in our physical bodies.
The presence of space gives us the opportunity to create and these opportunities are found everywhere. It could be walking into an empty room, turning a blank page in your journal, ending a relationship, sitting in silence or even discovering you have an empty chest of drawers.
Without space, it would be harder to ‘see’, which is why people often say, “Let’s take a step back” when they’re problem solving or trying to analyse something. Allowing that creation of space helps us to examine, to become more aware and to make decisions that are better informed and not emotionally motivated. In our physical worlds, this is easy to do. When something is broken we get rid of it or we fix it. Or when we have too many objects on the table, we clear them away.
In our emotional worlds however, creating space might be a little more challenging. One clear example of this is in our relationships. Making a decision to end a relationship that no longer serves us favourably can be really hard to do, as fear often prevents us from moving forward. In this case, the prospect of space, its emptiness and the ending it brings, can be rather daunting. Instead of representing new possibility, opportunity or discovery, it stands for fearfulness, loneliness, failure and sadness.
But space also allows for healing and nurturing, both of which are important for our minds and bodies. Take an avid gym goer for example, they know that it is important to have a day off from lifting weights to let their muscles recuperate and grow stronger. It’s the same with your relationship with your best friends or loved ones – “Absence makes the heart grow fonder”, they say. And finally, think about the one thing we do every single day – we sleep. To sleep is to give our bodies a chance to rest and space to process, regenerate and relax at the end of the day.
So in reality, we’re constantly creating space in our lives and in more ways than we realise. Here are some questions to get you thinking about your attitude towards space.
- What do you think of when you hear the words ‘create space’?
- What emotions do you create space with? List them down.
- When was the last time you created space (either physically, emotionally, mentally or spiritually) in your life?
- How did this make you feel?
- In which aspect of your life would you like to create more space in?
If you feel fearful or uncertain by the concept of space or by being in empty spaces, address why you feel so. Try to understand where these feelings are coming from without any judgement towards yourself, and see that they could be signals for you to address something deeper. The more you practice creating space in your life, the more comfortable you’ll be with it and the more positivity and love you’ll be able to create and receive from it. When this happens, whatever fear or anxiety that has been holding you back will move on and the space will open for something new and positive to grow.